I know this is scary, but the CBE blog is taken up these days with posts and discussions in preparation for an upcoming issue of Mutuality on the subject of "dating".
The latest post, Proposals, Parents and Purchases is by a married couple who have already co-authored an article on the subject in a previous issue. In this blog post, they relate that, "as we noted in the article, often we followed more traditional ways of doing things. Sometimes we wanted to – but often we knew of no other option."
Then, in the section on Proposals, they write the following which brought me up short and actually made me smile, "Would it be possible for a couple to sit down together and collectively make the decision to move forward into engagement? Would this method ruin the “surprise” factor of a proposal, and if so, is it a sacrifice worth making?"
My goodness but this grand project to remake the sexes is a difficult matter, isn't it? They wanted to do things "mutually" but sometimes didn't know how? And really, if they have to ask if collectively making the decision to "move forward into engagement" risks ruining the surprise factor in a traditional scenario -- are they really that Egalitarian after all?
I mean, if all this male supremacy folderol is really an unbiblical and worldly racket for the protection of male privilege, why would doing away with the "surprise" even be a sacrifice?