There are some questions which reveal a fundamental error in their asking. For instance, "How can I safely stick my finger in a light socket?" does not reveal a willingness to question the status quo - rather, it reveals a fundamental misunderstanding of the nature of electricity and the purpose of fingers. It's a question that would never be asked if the person first understood the nature of the matters he is questioning.
In the same way, someone who questions the necessity of separating men and women in accountability groups when sexual matters are being discussed understands very little, if anything, about the meaning and purpose of our sexual natures. It is only when we begin to understand the nature of things that we can begin to ask the right questions. It is only when we stop asking the wrong questions that we can begin to understand the right answers.